Some people love this holiday and some people hate it. Who is forcing you to celebrate it?
If you feel socially obligated to do something special this week then do this, work on self-compassion.
Self-compassion is a way of treating yourself with kindness instead of criticizing yourself. It has all of the benefits and none of the pitfalls of self-esteem.
I’m no expert, watch this video. This speaker, Kristen Neff, identifies the failings of self-esteem, three main parts of self-compassion and its benefits.
If you’re skeptical like me, then it may sound like some hippy-dippy faith you must believe blindly. I am not asking you to do that. Watch the TEDx video and just keep an open mind. She makes some good points.
She has various exercises to help you work on your S-C and specifically mindfulness, common humanity and self-kindness.
One thing I love is that she encourages journaling and has a guided format for those shy about writing their feelings.
So maybe you’re not with your it man or woman on this made up holiday. So what!? Work on loving yourself, do random acts of kindness for people who need a smile, pamper yourself.
Pamper doesn’t mean spend a lot of money. Do something for yourself. You survived another year.
At the end of her exercises she offers some ways you might treat yourself. Who deserves a special something more than you?
Here are her ideas to treat yourself. Ultimately, do something you enjoy.
°Get a massage, a pedicure, or other form of pampering.
°Take a nap in the middle of the day.
°Go to a comedy club.
°Rent a tear-jerker DVD and let it all out.
°Listen to relaxing music while lying on the sofa with your eyes closed.
°Practice loving-kindness meditation or do yoga for a half-hour.
°Hang out with a friend for an evening.
°Go dancing (home, club, informal group). Or, do the self-compassionate body scan (guided meditation on her site).
°Have that oh-so-compassionate glass of red wine, accompany it with a large glass of water to help your body cope with its dehydrating effects. Or, if you find you are drinking too much and it’s starting to harm rather than to enhance your well-being, have some dark red juice (cranberry, pomegranate, or cherry) mixed with sparkling water in a wine glass. Often just the sight of dark red liquid in a wine glass will trigger a relaxation response.
Who says you have to do it on the 14th. Chocolate goes on sale February 15th.
What do you think? Too far out or worth a try?